Let’s just say, I’m a runner. Most of these are true for me…

You roll your eyes when people talk about low carb diets.

You say you’re going out for a short run and come back two hours later.

You think high 40s/low 50s and overcast sounds like perfect weather.

You get up earlier on weekends than you do during the work week.

You tell your wife you want a marathon entry as a birthday present.

When someone asks you how far you are planning to run, you say “I’m ONLY doing 10 today.

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Rule 11: If you can still argue after honestly employing the
following 10 rules, you have a very serious situation and should seek
counseling.

1. Avoid fights…whenever possible. You are not in love to fight.

2. Be sure the topic is worth fighting over.
Isn’t it easier to give in? Do you really want to risk the relationship over this?

3. Make sure you both know what the argument is really over.
Each should clearly state what they see as the basis behind the fight. Respect the other person’s feelings. They are as legitimate as yours.

4. If the fight is impossible to avoid, then fight fair.
Remember that you love the other person. They are not the enemy. All may be fair in war, but not fair in love.

5. Do not push buttons that you know will set the other person off…
…if the new items are unrelated to the argument at hand. Keep
the fight on the topic. Heed warnings.

6. Once a point is made, drop it and move on.
Hammering home the same point over and over does not move the argument forward, it creates the feeling that you are beating a dead horse.
Keep fights brief; the longer they go on, the greater the wear and tear on
both of you - and tired, rundown people make mistakes easier.

7. Accept surrender when it is offered.

Fighting on, inflicting more damage, making more points after one side has capitulated is very destructive. Enjoy the victory and spare the loser; after all, you love your partner.

8. Physical release of anger is good.
Are you still arguing after employing the first seven rules?
Are you getting angry?
Want to make it physical? Good.

Here are the following choice of weapons: feather pillows, water guns, Jello, whipped cream, Silly String, fully cooked pasta, butter and jelly.

9. If all previous rules fail to end the argument, get naked and get into bed. It’s hard to argue with someone you love when they are naked, in your arms, and in bed with you.

10. If No.9 still does not end it, then one party is entitled to shout - MASSAGE.

All hostilities must be brought to an instant halt - a cease fire - and the other party must spend the next hour giving the first party a full sensuous massage, during which time neither party may utter a word, although muted sounds of enjoyment are permitted.

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Men are more likely than women to prefer marriage over lifelong singlehood and in many ways are as interested in serious family relationships as women, according to a new study that provides the government’s first comprehensive glimpse into the male psyche.

The survey, released Wednesday by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, involved more than 12,000 men and women ages 15-44. It asked a variety of questions about sex, living together, marriage, divorce and parenting.

This is the first time men have been included in the agency’s study, which has been conducted periodically since 1973. The new report, an analysis of data collected in 2002, focuses on men and offers some comparisons with women.

To the statement “It is better to get married than go through life single,” 66% of men agreed, compared with 51% of women.

“There’s a lot of evidence out there in the culture — and this is the most striking I’ve seen yet — that men value what marriage is and does more than women,” says Scott Stanley, co-director of the Center for Marital and Family Studies at the University of Denver.

Responses from both sexes suggest that “the majority agree it is better to get married, and few people agree that divorce is best,” says Gladys Martinez, lead author of the study.

Other survey findings:

•47% of men and 58% of women have had a biological child.

•76% of men and 72% of women agreed “it is more important for a man to spend a lot of time with his family than be successful at his career.”

Neil Chethik, author of VoiceMale: What Husbands Really Think About Their Marriages, Their Wives, Sex, Housework, and Commitment, says the new data seem to mirror his research, in which 90% of married men said they would marry the same woman if given a chance to do it again. “Everything I’ve seen that has started to look at men more carefully shows that men are committed or dedicated.”

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By Sharon Jayson - USA TODAY

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