What will our legacy be as men?

The brokenness of our fathers or the victory of our Lord?

All sons get old, not all sons grow up.

My aim is not to have my son follow me, but exceed me.

I want him to be a greater man, a greater husband, a greater father, a more passionate follower of Christ.

I don’t want him to be my echo, but my voice.

I want the greatness and goodness of Christ to boom from his life.

I want all the world to see that as for me and my household, for all generations that follow me, that we have chosen to serve the Lord.

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“Never violate a woman, nor harm a child. Do not lie, cheat or steal.
These things are for lesser men.
Protect the weak against the evil strong.
And never allow thoughts of gain to lead you into the pursuit of evil.
Never back away from an enemy. Either fight or surrender.
It is not enough to say I will not be evil. Evil must be fought wherever it is found.”

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• All sin is unreasonable, illogical, and irrational.
• Unbelief is the basis of sin. Pride is the strength of sin. Deceitfulness is the character of sin.
• Sin always promises to serve and please, but what it really does is enslaves and dominates.
• As sin brings coarseness so righteousness brings refinement.
• While sin is contagious; righteousness is not.
• Sin is still sin - no matter how you spell it.
• Sin is what short circuits God’s favor in life.
• The torment of the temptation to sin, is nothing to compare with the torment of the consequences of sin.
• Satan has no leverage where there is no sin.
• A sin mentality develops a poor self-image.
• Men who make a truce with sin live in misery.
• Forgiveness is the essential to remove sin.
• Forgiveness opens, unforgiveness closes.
• Forgiveness is the visible expression of real mercy.
• God gives grace to sinners and glory to saints. We are to walk in grace but be filled with His Glory.
• Love for God does not depend on degree of sin, but on degree of forgiveness realized.
• Faith changes things - grace changes you!

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A few weeks ago, I was picking up a take-out order at a local restaurant. While I was there, I happened to overhear some woman telling her daughter that men were just big boys. What surprised me, is that she said it in front of two generations of men in her family, and the men laughed in agreement. I couldn’t have been more offended. Here is a woman who does not realize or respect a man’s place in the family, and two men who do not know they are the priests of their family. Here are two men who have either forgotten what their fathers taught them, or were taught by their mothers and other women that they are worthless as men.

We, as men, are not worthless. We are not just big boys - not that we can act like boys around a camping trip or a bass boat; that’s a different matter altogether - we are priests in our home. We have grown up from being boys. We must put off childish things. Men must realize their place in the home. It’s not politically correct. It’s biblically correct. When feminists are telling us that men are not the head of their home, that men and women are totally equal, and it doesn’t matter what the man’s role in the home is or that the home even needs to consist of a man and a woman, we need to know what the Bible tells us. Men and women are equally sinful, men and women have equal standing in salvation, but men and women have different roles in church and home. Moses met with the men of Israel, not the women, to give them God’s mandates, and they took that word to their families.

Now don’t get what I’m not saying. Women are not some sub-species to be trampled on. They should be more important to us men than anything. It is for us to love them, to protect them, and to esteem them as we esteem ourselves.

Men are called to be men, not big boys. We are called to love our wives. We are called to be responsible for our families. We are responsible for giving our wives the opportunity to be our crowning glory as we are the crowning glory of God. We are responsible for their every wrinkle. We are responsible for our children. When we give up our responsibility of our families to anyone, we become big boys. Boys have no cares, no responsibilities, no respect given to them. They won’t make the big sale, they must be cared for and provided for, because they are only boys. Don’t be just a big boy. God may have called boys, but He didn’t call them to stay boys. He called them to become men.

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He said to them, “Because of your little faith. For truly, I say to you, if you have faith like a grain of mustard seed, you will say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move, and nothing will be impossible for you.” Matthew 17:20

We have plenty of mountains to move in our day. Some of them seem formidable and even impossible to overcome. The issue I have with these mountains is that, after 30 or more years, they still exist. Sometimes we get to busy speaking about our mountains that we forget to speak to them. We spend plenty of time telling a third person that mountain needs to be moved, that mountain will be moved, but rarely will we walk up to a mountain and say, “Mountain, move.”

When God told Ezekiel to prophesy to a valley of bones, he didn’t say, “Go tell people that I will make this valley live.” He said, “Tell these bones to come together, tell them to have flesh, tell them to live.” Ezekiel told the dead dry bones to do these things, and what happened? They lived.

Too many times we ask for God to move our mountains. Now there is nothing wrong in petitioning to God, but when He tells us to speak to the mountain, we should speak to the mountain. Prayer is only preparation and communion with God. We can pray to God and declare our desire to see Him move in our circumstances, and at the same time we should speak to our circumstances and tell them to be changed.

It’s time we stop talking about our problems and start talking to them. It’s God’s power, through our very little faith, that will move mountains. When we, in faith, speak to mountains, they will move.

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During the month of June, Dr. King will be featured in a series of Focus on the Family Weekend Magazine Radio interviews. He will be discussing his book It’s a Guy Thing, Helping Guys Become Men, Husbands, and Fathers. Focus on the Family is headed by Dr. James Dobson. For more information, and to listen to Dr. King’s Focus on the Family interviews, visit the Focus on the Family website.

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Everything in life is done incrementally, we build line upon line and precept upon precept.

Everything in life appreciates or depreciates. It is true of cars, houses and even people.

Everything in life is seasonal. You can’t change the seasons, but you can adapt to them.

Everything in life is under your personal power of choice. However, once you make the choice, you become the servant to that choice.

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Men are typically hunters by nature. We generally do not want to humble ourselves and ask for help. I have this philosophy whenever I go to the store, if I can’t find it, they don’t have it. It’s a very flawed philosophy, but most of us are content to search until we “know” there is no solution, or we find a makeshift solution, rather than ask someone who knows more about our situation than we do. It works the same way when we try to work out our problems rather than asking our all-knowing and sovereign God for the answer. We try to fix it ourselves and end up with bigger problems and more cracks in the vessel. We simply get better answers when we ask someone who knows more than us for help.

Then we have to use what we are given. When God answers our prayers with a plan, resources, talent, or people, we have to act on what God gives. Action without prayer is useless. Prayer without action is useless. We have to stay in the cycle of prayer and action; just like reading an instruction manual and doing each step as it is described.

Third, we cannot get upset when God’s plan doesn’t match ours, besides, God is the expert. He will fulfill the desires of our heart. If you want to reach the nations, He may not simply send you on a missions trip. He may give you the resources and talent to create an international organization or a website that is seen around the world. Just because it isn’t our plan, doesn’t mean that we can’t be successful in accomplishing it.

God calls for the proper stewardship of our time, talent, and treasure. That means prayer, study of the Word, using our resources wisely, asking God for wisdom and help.

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